Columbine Shooter’s Mother Says, “I Was a Victim”


Update 9/30/16

The comment below from Jaime I considered important enough to add as an update instead of a comment, because sometimes people do not read the comments, and I wanted this to be read by everyone reading the story about Sue Klebold.

My story was about Sue Klebold because I  felt when she said she was a victim was one of the most preposterous statements I had ever read or heard. To me that was a rationalization in the highest order, and perhaps indicative of the possibility that Dylan was never held accountable for anything.  If I recall correctly, Dylan had a BMW to drive to school. That strikes me as someone who would have  never been seriously disciplined.

Jaime might be a blogger, I don’t know. In my experience of having written over 300 stories, I find if I include more than one major subject in a story, I suffer a dilution of the story that my readers do not like.

I only mentioned Eric in passing two or three times in my story, because Eric is another story, and I think Jaime, in my opinion, has covered it quite well.

Comment from Jaime

If you think Dylan’s parents negligent, I wonder what you would have thought of Eric’s parents. Eric’s parents even found his weapons in his bedroom after his arrest and never questioned him. They knew Eric was threatening another student online because the police had drawn up a search warrant. And they knew their son Eric had a preoccupation with explosives long before Columbine: didn’t Eric start playing with matches and lighters long before he reached adolescence? There is a reason why the Harrises did not want the police to search their residence. And there is a reason why the Harrises have not come forward. They are the most guilty.
As to Sue Klebold, I can’t imagine why she didn’t separate the two boys after the van incident.

Original Story from February 12, 2016

Tonight on ABC TV Diane Sawyer will interview Sue Klebold, the mother of Dylan Klebold, one of the shooters in the Columbine massacre 17 years ago.

Based on seeing a portion of the interview on Thursday night on the Megyn Kelly show, I get the impression that we are about to see Diane Sawyer being sympathetic to Sue Klebold, and her  struggles to find out why Dylan did what he did. Sue Klebold indicated her son, as the killer, was totally different from the son she knew. The signs were there before hand, Sue Klebold, and don’t tell me they weren’t as outlined in my original story below. Why didn’t you and your husband see them before the massacre?

Sawyer seems to try and tie it to teenage depression.

I’m sure the families of the victims who died on that April 20, 1999 day need a sob story from Diana Sawyer about Sue Klebold.

And don’t miss the portion of the interview where Sue Klebold says she was a victim. That should be the highlight of your night.

Original story below posted 2/9/16

You read that title correctly. Sue Klebold, Dylan Klebold’s mother thinks she is a victim.

She’s even written a book about it titled “A Mother’s Reckoning” due out February 16th.

I’m always fascinated by book titles, especially when they contain words that can easily be found in the dictionary.

Reckoning—1. An act of counting. 2. An itemized bill or statement of an amount to be paid. 3. A settlement of accounts (a final reckoning).

We might be able to employ all three definitions in explaining this. “An act of counting”. Twelve students dead and one teacher.

“An itemized bill or statement of an amount to be paid”. Sue Klebold owes a lot to the families of those thirteen people killed, and to those injured, a debt she can never repay, even if she were the richest woman in the world. Some of the victims’ families sued and received money. Others obtained money through court actions. None of the victims killed returned alive to live out their actuarial years.

“A settlement of accounts (a final reckoning)”. She is going to settle with everyone? How is she going to do that, with words? Relive all the grief that her son caused with the book? There is an empty place, an empty chair, a Christmas celebration, a birthday, a conversation. She can never “settle”, because all of those will never happen again for the families of the victims.

And pray tell what sort of final reckoning does she propose? We should all get together and reminisce?

Really Sue, I don’t care if you are giving all the profits to mental health charities, this book just reopens wounds from seventeen years ago, forces families to agonize over those hours again, first when theirs were alive, and then when they were not. There are actually accounts available in minutes of what happened, and not hours. The exact time that their loved ones were killed.

Why are you the victim, Sue? Because your son Dylan and the other shooter Eric Harris committed suicide? Are you conveniently forgetting the prior 50 minutes of the assault?

You and your husband had no clue this was about to happen? You never went in your basement to see was going on? You never questioned purchases your son was making?

Yet you want to vindicate your soul, your conscious, by rationalizing about your lack of parental control, your acceptance that your son could do no wrong, or whatever other garbage you wish to put by your curbside to be picked up by the city, to be free of it forever? Isn’t that what your book is saying—A final reckoning—for you?

You don’t deserve a final reckoning. The victims’ families will never have one? Why should you? You should be tortured every night and not be able to sleep. Don’t go to church and ask for forgiveness. I believe there are some things so evil there can be no forgiveness, and this is one of them.

And before too many people begin to feel sorry for you, and say you have suffered enough, let’s point out some of the warning signs, some of them self-evident.

Dylan liked to keep to himself, and play gloom and doom and death video games in his room.

Dylan and Harris made a movie video at school where they “killed” some athletes. How fast fantasy became reality.

Dylan Klebold kept a journal of what he planned to do.

He wore swastikas, and his greeting was often, “Heil, Hitler”.

The Columbine massacre occurred on April 20th—Hitler’s birthday.

Dylan belonged to the “Trench Coat Mafia” at school. Black long coats.

He displayed some Gothic tendencies.

His “girlfriend”, if you choose to call her that, helped him secure three of the guns. He took her to the prom before the massacre. Didn’t you have any idea who she was or what kind of person she was?

Where did Dylan get $500 to buy another gun? Was that his weekly allowance? That amount would be in line with the fact he had a BMW that he drove to school, his own BMW I assume.

Your son and Eric Harris had a fire bomb, general denominational bombs, pipe bombs, 2 propane cylinders rigged as bombs, numerous guns and ammo that they hauled to Columbine, and you found nothing in your house? No indication of anything? Did you even look? Had those two propane cylinders gone off in the cafeteria, hundreds would have been killed. The only fortunate thing of the matter was that Dylan and Eric Harris were ignorant bomb makers, and their bombs were primarily ineffective.

You never bothered to search his room when he was not at home, much less the basement?

Did you ever meet Eric Harris and decide that he was a bad influence on your son?

Dylan and Eric Harris stole some merchandise from a van in 1998, and were sentenced, not to jail, but to a diversionary program. They were released in February, 1999, a short time before the Columbine massacre.

And this might be the most disturbing factor of all. When Dylan came home from the diversionary program, did you not sit down at the dinner table with him, and have a cold, hard conversation about whether he intended to become a full time criminal, or whether all the things you and your husband had done for him might steer him on a straight path? He and Eric Harris had been planning the Columbine slaughter no later than June or July of the previous year, so the answers he gave you about school, his social life, activities and hobbies, or anything for that matter, were probably ninety-nine percent lies. You and your geophysicist husband, Dylan’s father, were highly intelligent people. Surely the two of you could tell after seventeen plus years with Dylan when he was lying, and what he said needed tremendous scrutiny and further severe, thorough investigation.

I’m sure there were more signs. These are the ones that are readily available. The ones in front of you, you did not see.

Before all of this happened, a deputy sheriff was going to seek a search warrant to see what Eric Harris had in his house, but the warrant was never executed, and the sheriff’s department tried to hide that info after the massacre. Had the search warrant become effective, Columbine would have never happened.

Someone wrote a book afterwards in which they exonerated you and your husband and the Harris parents. I wonder if that author was looking at the same info I just laid out?

That’s right Sue Klebold, have your book signings. Bring up the past. Reopen horrible wounds that might not even have healed to this day. Let’s call this the Columbine High School Massacre II.  And you, Sue, are the perpetrator this time. Have Eric Harris’ mother to sit beside you. I have a feeling there will be people standing in line, not to buy a book, but to stare at you two.

Contrary to the person who wrote the book exonerating you from all blame, Sue Klebold, you are not innocent. You are guilty in the first degree.



  • Shame on you! How is a mother of an almost adult son supposed to be blamed for her son’s actions? Also, you are mistaken about Dylan being homicidal so early on. He was under severe depression and it was Eric who was homicidal from the start. Eric quite obviously was deranged and had known severe mental issues. His parents knew, but were never able to get him enough help. Then you take a kid who had been tortured (yes, I believe the bullying he had been througb was torture) and condemn his family for his pain? I’m not going to advocate anyone change their feelings, but I do want to point out that the road you take is the easy one. It is easier to condemn people than forgive. It is easier to despise than to show sympathy. Until you walk a mile in Sue Klebold’s (or any other family of a person like that) shoes, it will be easier to hate than to understand. But from my own perspective, I see Sue has been through hell and back. She not only lost her son, but has to come to bear the pain and stigma of every action he took. I will say as a mom of a teen today, that teens are definitely the ones in cotnrol of their actions. Personally, I believe that the whole mess was a tragedy and it is unbearably sad, even today. But I also see in this mess two boys who had terrible mental health issues and never got help. It is not normal for Dylan to have written over and over about committing suicide and saying how he felt no girl would ever love him. It is also not normal for Eric to write over and over homicidal tendencies and violent messages.

    As a last note, I also find it utterly ridiculous to see violent video games or movies as an issue. Millions (including both my husband and myself, and our daughter) play them everyday. And we don’t go out shooting others or even hurting them To lay any blame on entertainment or even see it as some kind of sign of future violence is beyond silly. Are we all supposed to believe that anyone who see Natural Born Killers or who plays Call of Duty is going to go try to hurt other people? I’dalso suggest that before you condemn a family member for their relative’s actions, maybe you should take a look at all your friends and family and be willing to take on the blame for everythint tthey’ve ever done, (including say past relatives who had slaves or those who got a dui or whatever). We all have people in our lives who have done stupid or things we would never assoiciate with had they not been our family. But to claim that any of those has to take blame for those same actions? – that’s just ridiculous.

    • Thanks for your comment. I always appreciate all perspectives on a story. Some comments I cannot post because of the profanity involved.

      Exactly where did you read in what I wrote that I said either one of them was homicidal?

      Bullying is one of the worse things that can happen to a kid, but if all bullied kids resorted to what Eric and Dylan did, we would have 15 or 20 or more massacres a day. I assume with the awareness of bullying now, schools do not tolerate it, and take action against the instigator. Whether that resolves the matter in the kid’s mind, I have no idea. I would hope so.

      I don’t quite see how I’m taking the easy out. I’ve written a lot of murder stories, and I’ve never run across a killer I forgave. Some families do it in the stories I write, but I will not forgive a murderer and never will. That does not mean I do not forgive people, but it is not someone who has affected the lives of so many, and we are talking about one murder victim, not even the totality of Columbine.

      You strike me as a very responsible parent. I do believe if you had been the parent of either Eric or Dylan, and the problems they had already exhibited, stealing merchandise from a van in 1998 would have put me on high alert, as I think it would have you, I do think both of us (correct me if I’m wrong) would have been checking on them like a hawk.

      The massive build-up in the basement of what would be the Columbine arsenal would have been discovered, and disposed of, and some type of mental health treatment would have been sought for both of them.

      The outward signs that Dylan exhibited I think would have been warning signs to both of us, in view of the problems he had already had. Particularly key to me would have been the long black coat and the “Trench Coat Mafia”, perhaps whimsical in other situations, but not this one. And the Gothic tendencies he was showing as well. I didn’t think it would be necessary to list those tendencies, just that the black soul of the
      Gothic entities was enough to be a warning.

      To me there is no correlation to what games people play or the movies they see that relates to any criminal activity, unless the person already has problems.

      Had this been a spontaneous action of Dylan and Eric, say they bought guns one day, and went to the school the next to shoot as many as they could, I’m not sure anyone would have blamed the Klebold’s or the Harris’s. I would have examined the prior 24 hours and that day, but I doubt I would have blamed them, regardless of any problems Eric and Dylan had in the past. Spur of the moment decisions often times can not be stopped.

      But the Columbine situation was long and drawn out with too many noticeable signs. They had even planned to do it about mid-year the year before. I did not explore the reason it did not occur then.

      So we disagree on that, but we can still carry on a civil conversation.

      I think you and your husband have discovered the secret of raising your daughter as we did when our now adult offspring were kids. Parent participation. I mean honest participation and not some superficial override.

      I am sure you and your husband are proud of your daughter, as well you should be.

      Again thanks for taking the time. Your comment was well thought out.